I have several theories on people and relationships.
My last reblog touches on one of those theories; understanding what functions people fill in your life and avoiding chaos by not asking for them to function in other ways. A recent example is my employee that I had to go the fuck off on.
Dude is hilarious, we could kick it all day. He’s intelligent, passionate, energetic, well-connected, knowledgeable about a lot of things and business savvy. An all around good person to have as a friend as do business with. The problem I had with him was that I needed him as an intern, a part of a team of interns who each had specific responsibilities to fulfill. Almost all of which he did not fulfill.
Getting him to do his damn job was the absolute most frustrating part of my position. And I found myself getting angry with him at work but then laughing it up with him off the clock.
So can we kick it in the future? Absolutely. Will I ever agree to have him work under my supervision again? Fuck no.
I see this in play in other relationships in my life. My best friend could never again be my roommate. Some of my frat sisters could never be my homegirls. Shit just doesn’t work. And the more I learn people and how they function in my life the more unnecessary bs I avoid and the relationships are able to last longer and play out better.
here’s a tip: if you start dating a depressed person, don’t be surprised if they are still depressed while they are dating you. they’re not depressed because they’re single, and you are not an all-powerful cure for mental illnesses. just be there for them.